Have you ever planted a seed in the dirt?  Maybe you were hoping to grow some fresh basil or a rose bush. Whatever the desired outcome, a small seed was planted with high hopes that it would be transformed into something different. 

Once the seed is planted, our job becomes one marked by waiting.  It is true that we need to water the seed and expose it to the necessary sunlight. Most of all, we wait.  If we had the time and inclination to watch the seed as it progressed through its growth cycle, we might see an interesting sight.  Just before the seedling brings to life the fruit or vegetation that was planted, a little dirt comes up.

The dirt is being pushed out of the way in order to make room for the new growth that is to come. 

Life is a lot like that seedling.  When we make life changes, we are in essence planting a seed. Hopefully we are planting that seed in fertile ground, which in life could mean making changes that are supported by our environment and the people with whom we surround ourselves.  However, there are also those times when we know certain changes will grow us and transform us.  Yet, life has a different idea in mind.

That’s dirt. 

Change is difficult for a multitude of reasons. One of which is the inherent loss associated with every change.  Rick Warren is famously quoted as saying; “There is no growth, without change. There is no change, without loss. There is no loss, without pain. There is no pain, without fear”.  The second half of that quote asserts that habits, even when they are unhelpful, are likened to a worn out shoe.  The shoe, like old habits, may no longer be serving its intended purpose, yet remains comfortable and familiar and all the more difficult to leave behind. 

Discomfort precipitates change, and gives hope that with the newness will come comfort.  Instead what we get is …. dirt.  Our changes may be thwarted by environmental factors, or the people in our lives may begin to pushing back because our change forces them to change as well. Either way, the dirt we experience is merely making way for the transformation that is sure to come. 

When we plant seeds, let us be prepared for the dirt that comes with growth and let us be clothed in patience.

Published by Counseling Ally

I am a psychotherapist practicing in Melbourne Florida. I am passionate about working with trauma survivors and individuals seeking recovery from harmful behaviors and chemical dependencies. I am a cognitive behavioral therapist by training, and incorporate attachment based and psychodynamic techniques in assisting individuals in achieving a life worth living.

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